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Based on some of the questions we've been receiving, we've put together some ideas for a
happier relationship.
Have Your Own Individual Interests as Well as Joint Interests |
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Have your own friends, hobbies, and interests outside of the relationship. This
has several benefits. It allows you time away from each other when friction
begins between you, as well as brings new energy into the relationship if each of
you feel rewarded outside of the relationship.
This also allows you to try out things that might become joint interests and you
both could enjoy. |
Don't Forget to Date |
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Remember how it felt when you first started dating? You did nice things for each
other to show your love (like flowers, surprises, romantic evenings...), you were
very considerate of each others, and you looked at dating as a way to learn more
about the person. Keep this tradition going. Let your partner know something
you like about them, something they do that makes you proud of them or that
you admire. Copied from the web.
Buy your partner a card with a sweet thought and slip it in their lunch, remember
to kiss hello and goodbye, cuddle, hold hands, etc... and keep romance going.
Make a point to learn new things about your partner and share things about you. |
Be Supportive |
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Be supportive of your partner by finding new ways to help them. This may mean
simply asking what you can do to help them, or offering a "gift" of additional
unexpected aid. For example, |
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take the kids out so they can have a night at home in peace and quiet
 babysit so they can go out with friends one evening
 arrange to come home early so they can study while you take care of other
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 walk the dog for them
 give them a compliment when you know they need a little ego-boost |
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It can also mean something like going to church with them, being extra nice
during a visit to their family, doing a chore you know they dislike for them, or
simply letting your partner decide some issue that is important to them, simply
because you know how much it means to them. |
Be Physical |
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Don't let the physical side of the relationship slip away. That may mean sex
sometimes, but it also means holding hands, cuddling on the couch in front of a
movie, a hug at the end of a tough day, a back or temple massage.... |
Clear the Air |
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Routinely build in a time to talk about any unresolved issues over the week. This
is especially important if one of you comes from a family that avoided problems,
or if you tend to "stew" before you say something. It is also important after big
changes, like working more overtime, significantly changing household
responsibilities, or making a change in your relationship (like dating exclusively
or moving in together). Talk about the small things so they don't become big
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These are just a few tips to having a better relationship.
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